Help and Strategies
by Leslie Vernick Association of Biblical Counselors) As Christian counselors, pastors and people helpers we often have a hard time discerning between an evil heart and an ordinary sinner who messes up, who isn’t perfect, and full of weakness and sin. I think one of the reasons we don’t “see” evil is because we
Read MoreIs it Bullying or Mobbing?[ii] Bullying and mobbing are different. Both involve aggressive and hostile behaviours directed towards a ‘target’. Church bullying happens in relational situations between one or a few bullies and a victim. Bullies are aggressive in the way they deal with others. These behaviours can include repeated harassing or ‘pushy’ behaviour, offending
Read MoreRecovery from mobbing can be slow and complicated. Anyone who has not experienced mobbing may find it difficult to understand and empathize with victims of mobbing. Mobbing is not acute trauma like being in a car accident or witnessing a shooting. It is chronic trauma that occurs over a period of time involving personal attacks
Read MoreThis list of characteristics of bullies is not exhaustive however it does include the most common characteristics. Please don’t be alarmed if you notice that you or a good friend have some of these characteristics. We can have one or two of the characteristics and not be a bully. The more characteristics the person exhibits,
Read MoreThe impact of Mobbing (bullying) is comprised of many losses. Loss can affect health, work relationships, family stability, personal and professional identity, income and finances, job, career, professional reputation and ability to find work. It can play havoc with your confidence, belief in fairness and justice and your sense of security about the future. Victims
Read MoreMob (Bully) Proof Congregations…. Establish clear vision, mission and values. Raise widespread awareness within the church about what mobbing (bullying) looks like and the real threat that it is to the targeted individuals health (emotional, physical, spiritual, relational), career, family and social relationships and its impact on church communities. This includes clear biblical teaching on
Read MoreThe Good Shepherd and His Sheep 10 “Very truly I tell you Pharisees, anyone who does not enter the sheep pen by the gate, but climbs in by some other way, is a thief and a robber”. (NIV) 10“Let me set this before you as plainly as I can. If a person climbs over or through
Read MoreBut mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of
Read More17 I urge you, brothers and sisters, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. 18 For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds
Read More29 I know that after I leave, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. 30 Even from your own number men will arise and distort the truth in order to draw away disciples after them. 31 So be on your guard! Remember that for three years I never stopped warning each of
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